So I've been told that a mother who has not direct breast-feeding to her children will affect the mother-child love bonding; in a way the child might prefer others (babysitter) than her/his own mom. Oh, by the way I am writing this down from my view as a working mom.
And so I guess the claim might as well be a myth since I have not directly breastfeeding my daughter (I've tried once but it seems that she prefers bottle feeding more than sucking to my almost none nipples) but still she clings to me like a baby monkey. I know I have the disadvantage to not having her affection by breastfeeding but I redeem by making sure I spend quality time with her at everytime we had chance. The most important thing I need to make sure is to let her know me as the one who will be there when she needs - listen to her (as if I understand her words), talk to her (pretend like she knows my language), teach her to new things (mostly toys), show her educational videos, sing to her (she loves this so much) and lots more which I, myself sometimes been consumed in this motherhood life...
At first after discovering she did not want to breastfeed made me burst into frustration. It is so disappointing to know my friends easily fed their kids at night - don't have to prepare milk in the milk dispenser, hot water in the thermos, no waking up in the middle of night to pour-mix milk, no panda eyes coming to the office. Aaah, disadvantages on my side but I make it through until now...and so it becomes a habit. When she reached her 14 months old, she does not wake up at night as long as I feed her before sleep (Big relieved)
I believe there are many other mothers out there who share similar issues as mine, be strong, don't lose faith, we are a good mother as we think we are. The mother-child love bonding is not limited to breastfeeding only, that's all I wanted to say...
Ami & Laura
Fuzzy Ami
